
I am supposed to head to the gym right now, but this dropped in my heart and I am just going to drop it here because it might be for someone. I am no relationship expert, I have only been in one relationship in my life(which has ended) and I belong to the school of thought that believes that as Christians, we shouldn’t get into a relationship with any and every Tom, Dick and Harry in the name of dating. I have however had crushes on several people( Don’t blame me, I am Human), Some of this people are aware and some of them are not. I recall a certain someone saying to me that “It seems I find it very easy to forget people I claim to really like”. I just LOL’d. The truth is i never really forget, but then I believe it boils down to ‘self control’. Sometimes, I pick up my phone to call someone and after replaying in my head how i expect the conversation will go, I just drop the phone.
Frankly, I have come to realize that it is better not to ‘feed’ this kind of relationships. The ‘Undefined Relationships’ are the worst, they wear you out emotionally and drain you spiritually. Don’t feed them. Define your relationships, If it is FRIENDSHIP, let it be in every sense of it. If it is COURTSHIP, let it be in every sense of it. Do not live the kind of life my people refer to as ‘any where belle face”.
I recently almost went down that road again, oh yes, I have been down that road before..LOL. It took a lot of willpower to step back, pause and think and of course PRAY. God is interested in every single part of your life, every single part. Do not leave him out in any aspect. So to whoever this is for, define your relationships, do not just ‘go with the flow’. Whatever relationship isn’t growing you is not for you. Let your relationships be symbiotic and let GOD always be the center. Let your words in your relationships and every aspect of your life be seasoned with salt and your actions speak louder than your seasoned words (This is also a note to myself).
I am not even going to go into all the gist about how one will know if someone should be a friend ( There is the Jonathan, inner circle of 3, the outer circle of 30 and then the crowd- read about David to understand this) or a partner. There are a lot of relationship tapes, CDs, blogs, books and above all the HOLY SPIRIT ( He is the answer in my opinion.). will leave you to sort that one out as I am no relationship expert. 🙂
Off to the gym, Hopefully I blog more often going forward.
Cheers,
Stranger Here.